By Sam Tyrer, Head of Change Talks
As summer comes to an end, the anticipation of a new school year can bring a mix of excitement and anxiety for both parents and children. While it’s normal to feel a little nervous about the unknown, there are ways to make the transition smoother and less stressful.
Here are some top tips from Sam Tyrer, the founder of Change Talks to help parents and children ease back to school anxiety and to start the year off on the right foot.
For parents: helping your child manage back to school anxiety
Start early with a routine
The transition from a relaxed summer schedule to the structure of school can be jarring for many children. One of the best ways to ease this change is by gradually reintroducing a school year routine before the first day. Start setting regular bedtimes and wake up times a few days before. This helps adjust your child’s body clock and reduces the shock of waking up early on the first day back. Incorporate other parts of the school routine, like having meals at set times and setting aside a quiet period for reading or homework. Establishing a routine early can help reduce anxiety and create a sense of security for your child.
Keep the conversation going
Open communication is key to understanding your child’s fears and concerns about going back to school. Encourage them to express their feelings and listen without judgment. It’s important to validate their emotions - let them know it’s perfectly normal to feel anxious about new teachers, making friends, or adjusting to a different environment. Share your own experiences of overcoming fears to help them feel less alone. By keeping the lines of communication open, you can better support your child and provide reassurance when they need it most.
Visit the school together
Familiarity can significantly reduce anxiety. If possible, visit the school with your child before the term starts. Walk around the building, find their new classroom, and even meet the teacher if the opportunity arises. This will help your child feel more comfortable and less overwhelmed by the new environment. If a visit isn’t possible, look at pictures of the school online or talk through what the first day might look like. Knowing what to expect can turn fear of the unknown into anticipation.
Be positive and reassuring
Children often pick up on their parents’ emotions, so try to stay positive and calm about the upcoming school year. Speak positively about the school experience and highlight the aspects your child is looking forward to, whether it’s reuniting with friends, engaging in favourite subjects, or joining extracurricular activities. Reassurance from you can help them focus on the positives and reduce their anxiety about the unknown. Show confidence in their ability to handle the new school year - it can be incredibly empowering for them.
For children: Tackling back to school jitters
Talk about what worries you
Feeling nervous about school is completely normal, and talking about it can make a big difference. Share your concerns with your parents, a teacher, or a trusted adult. Whether you're worried about making friends, keeping up with schoolwork, or finding your way around, expressing your feelings can help you feel more supported. Remember, it’s okay to feel anxious, and talking about it is the first step to feeling better.
Get organised and prepare
Preparing for school ahead of time can help you feel more in control. The night before, lay out your clothes, pack your backpack, and make sure you have everything you need. Being organised can help you feel ready to face the day. It’s also helpful to familiarise yourself with your class schedule and know where your classrooms are. This way, you’ll have fewer things to worry about on the first day and can focus on enjoying the new experiences.
Practice relaxation techniques
If you feel nervous, try practicing simple relaxation techniques like deep breathing or visualisation. Taking a few deep breaths can help calm your nerves and slow your heart rate. Imagine a place where you feel happy and relaxed, like your favourite park or a cosy spot at home. Visualising yourself having a good day at school can also help boost your confidence. These techniques can help you feel more relaxed and ready to take on the challenges of the day.
Focus on the positives
Going back to school isn’t just about homework and tests; it’s also an opportunity to see your friends, learn new things, and try out fun activities. Focus on what excites you about going back to school. Think about the friends you’ll see again, the new friends you’ll make, and the subjects or activities you’re looking forward to. Keeping a positive mind set can help ease anxiety and make the transition back to school much more enjoyable.
Going back to school can be a nerve wracking experience, but with the right preparation and mind set, both parents and children can ease their anxiety and look forward to the new school year with excitement. By establishing routines, communicating openly, staying organised, and focusing on the positives, you can help create a smooth and successful transition back to school. Remember, a little bit of anxiety is normal, but with support and understanding, you can help your child thrive!
